New Year’s Resolutions are like goal setting baked right into our culture… obviously a good thing, right?  But according to the mighty Google, “On average, 80% of New Year’s resolutions fail by the second week of February.”  Perhaps a good idea with poor execution?  And if that’s the case, how do we improve the execution?  How do we get the ‘New You’ to stick?

Years back I did a series of videos called New Year’s Real Solutions.  The ‘clever’ wordplay is fun (for me at least), but it isn’t the magic that makes this work.  Learning to see this in a new way is the magic that changes everything.  That can start with a different description.  Realize that what you are about to do isn’t what you’ve done before (no matter how many times you think you’ve done this, before).  When you begin to understand that every time you come back it’s a little bit different, you start to realize that as long as you pay attention… it’s always new!

The next step is to take the time to get clear on where you want to go, and how you will get started.  The easiest way to do this is to begin with SMART Goals:  Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Time-bound.  If you’re not familiar, or need a refresher, here’s an article on them:  www.Toastmasters.org/magazine/magazine-issues/2022/aug/smart-goals.

I would guess that most people have been exposed to SMART goals in some area of their life.  But most people still don’t put this level of thought and effort into their stated goals (which is why they don’t get clear, and usually don’t get started).  And even those that use SMART goals, rarely come back to them consistently.  How do we make better use of the tools we already have?

Here are some tips to do just that:

1. Keep in mind this is play.  It’s exploration.  It’s discovery.  It’s fun.  Remember this attitude and you’ll quickly see and feel yourself building more and more positive momentum toward your goal.
2. Pick 5 to 10 big but not unreasonable goals for the coming year.  Write them all down.
3. Pick the most important 1 (usually the most meaningful goal for you, or the goal which will have the most impact in your life), and run it through the SMART process.
4. Work out some daily habits that will make your goal almost unavoidable.  Start practicing one of them daily.  Get a friend for accountability.
5. Write the goal and/or about the goal every day.  A sentence or two is fine.  Keep getting clearer on what your life looks like after you have achieved your goal.  At first, all this can take place inside 5 minutes a day.  Once you develop momentum, it will start taking longer, but at that point, you’ll be having fun.  You’ll be excited to squeeze in a little more time to make your goal into reality.

I remember hearing about this sort of stuff when I was younger.  Then I would think “I’m not doing all that junk!”  Back then, I wanted goal setting, affirmations, success meditations, etc. to be the magic bullet that saved me from having to do work.  What I’ve realized is that all these techniques are just methods of getting you more curious about and committed to your goal.  Once you’re truly curious and committed, the techniques don’t matter nearly as much.  You feel the fun momentum of “I’ve got to figure this out.”  At that point your goal has become almost unavoidable. 

The real question comes down to this.  Do you really have a goal?  Do you really want it?  One lifetime doesn’t last long enough for a person to do, have, and be everything.  But there’s always time for the most important things.

So pick what’s most important for you… Your own Real Solution… and make it happen this year!

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